Hey everyone, welcome to the fourth quarter.
We’re all scrambling now to hit those year end goals. I know I am. or was.
Maybe it’s because we lost 50 degrees of heat from two weeks ago to today. Or maybe it’s the fact that before today, I hadn’t seen the sky in four days because it did nothing but rain relentlessly. For four days. The cold to the bone kind of rain that makes it really hard to even want to get out of bed.
Or do anything at all.
I woke up Monday exhausted by the thought of my goals. I felt sick and tired of hurrying so I could tackle my list only to end my day with several of my items not yet crossed off, moving them to tomorrow’s list which is, once again, unattainable. Repeat routine.
I know I’m not alone. Just yesterday, a client sent me her goal list so we could prioritize for the rest of the year. They are audacious (as they should be!). Also yesterday, completely unrelated, yet coincidental, a friend Skype chatted me about his own gnarly plans for the future. Normally, I get inspired by that. Instead, I felt more tired.
This is isn’t the new permanent me. Six months ago, I would have been panicking that’s the case. I’ve gotten to know myself well this year. I know about phases now! And I don’t see them as new permanent states. I just need a break; a slow down.
In fitness, the rest periods are just as important as the training. The same goes for the pursuit of our big goals.
So here’s what I did when I woke up Monday:
I rolled over back under the covers. It all can wait another half hour. Kate Finley posted the SAME thing that day. She said something like, “I slept in. No one died and nothing blew up.”
I made my to-do list smaller. Making it smaller just made it manageable. When I got to the end of the day, all my items were crossed off. I even crossed off the LAST item before I threw the piece of paper in the trash. That is correct. I wouldn’t throw it out until I found a nearby pen and crossed the last item off. Then I threw it away.
I ended the day feeling accomplished.
Pushing that bike up the hill requires a ton of perseverance but it’s OK to set it down in the tall grass and take a drink of water, or a tall glass of vodka, whichever you prefer. No one will die, nothing will blow up. and a cool thing happens. If you bike, you know that momentum is your friend. My phone rang and that piece of new business I want to land was pushed forward significantly. Maybe you’ll get that creative breakthrough you’ve been working so hard to find. Things still happen when you underachieve for a time.
It’s Fall. I’m beginning to think the bears have this thing figured out. It’s time to give the brain some needed rest and enjoy some momentum. What will you do to underachieve this month?
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Ifdy Perez says
I <3 this.
Lisa Gerber says
Let’s underachieve together!
Ifdy Perez says
LOL YES! This reminds me of when an old coworker and I thought of starting “New Years Unresolutions” a couple yrs back but never did it. You and I should do it. “Unresolution #23: I plan to get in shape this year by eating donuts and gaining weight instead.”
Lisa Gerber says
I hope you didn’t miss the humor in this – starting New Years Unresolutions and never doing it? Classic.
Ifdy Perez says
Exactly. Let’s not do it together. Underachievement at its finest.
Catrina says
More people need to think like this. I recently went through a work/life balance epiphany as well. A friend had similar advice, “babies will still be born and the Earth will still rotate”. They were right. Sometimes it really helps to slow down, take a rest and recharge with all the knowledge you just overwhelmed yourself with. I found this amazing article that really puts things into a controlled perspective. I might have read it multiple times BUT the new mindset I have is intriguing. Many of the items that I “had to do” or “had to stay up and finish” or burned the midnight oil with will still be there when I get to them. I’ve realized that it feels just as good to underachieve as it does to overachieve. I wonder if some day I will know what is like to just “achieve”. Probably not. In the meantime, I’m happy. Thanks for the reminder and intuitive insight @lisagerber:disqus!
Lisa Gerber says
I don’t think we’ll ever be happy just achieving. LOL. Sigh.
Catrina says
I doesn’t even feel like a word on its own! Unless you are talking about what you are trying to do. ha